We do not grieve as those who have no hope
1 Thessalonians 4:13 (ASV)
13But we would not have you ignorant, brethren, concerning them that fall asleep; that ye sorrow not, even as the rest, who have no hope.
Amy Carmichael writes about a Christian man who lost his wife but confounded his non-Christian neighbors when instead of wailing as one without hope, went singing to the grave. In his words, "I believe she is with Jesus. He comforted me. He helped me to let it shine out that He comforted me!"
It was palpable; the radiant hope that a missionary couple had, even as the mourned the sudden death of their young daughter. And so great was this hope that a Brahmin who watched them, was finally convinced to give his life to Jesus!
After the loss of yet another child while on the mission field, a missionary's wife who herself was at the time sick, drew her husband close as she sang with tenderness; "All for Jesus." Even in their grief, they were hopeful and thankful!
Hudson Taylor and the China Inland Mission, The Growth of a Work of God by Dr. and Mrs. Howard Taylor
In two separate replies to letters from his dear friends, Hudson Taylor writes beautifully about the death of his wife and the great comfort he's enjoyed from the Lord since her demise.
After the sad loss of his dearest wife, Hudson Taylor did not go on grieving as one without hope. In total submission to the will of God, he believed that it was for the best—for her and for him—that she was called home to be with the Lord.
Muktifauj, Or Forty Years with the Salvation Army in India and Ceylon by Frederick St. George de Lautour Booth Tucker
A young Brahmin student was genuinely drawn to the Lord for salvation when he learned that his father—who had been an occultist that performed miracles by the power of the devil—shrieked in agony as he was tormented by the devil on his death bed and had died without hope and without God.
As Mary battled sickness, she feared not death and would only get angry when unbelievers wailed by her bedside; infact, she forbade them from wailing over her condition. Eventually, Mary went to be with her Savior - she had conquered death!
A Mongolian testified of how she was brought to the knowledge of Christ after watching Brian Hogan mourn the death of their child with the certain hope that there shall be a resurrection someday! The Christian faith became real to her at that point.
When his mother died, the unbelievers in their community were surprised to see Nana calm; for unlike them, he was neither wailing nor cutting himself. His reason was simple, his mother died a Christian and he knew she was safe with Jesus, even in death!